any advice please..?!?
well, i am christian married with a muslim after i met him and fell inlove when i was working as nurse in dubai… we make agree about things when we find out that our habits are different.. i am so inlove with islamic culture, especially in food and fashion..
he is nice, educate, and respect a lot my religion and practice his own one..
we aremarried for 1 year already and everything sound very good exept one thing.. his family don’t seem to like me.. and my husband say he would never ask me to convert, and don’t want me to convert to islam because of him..
how to deal with them.. any advice please..?
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~OMAR~X(Ahmad Faud Fan)
January 23, 2011 at 12:00 pm
that’s why he don’t want you to convert, the family is pushing you in that direction for him, so in fact convert, maybe they will be happy then.
ALI NADER
January 23, 2011 at 12:07 pm
turn to islam
1 Hot Photographer
January 23, 2011 at 12:36 pm
Just continue being nice to them, just be the total sweetheart you are and they will see that you are good for their son. You don’t have to change who you are for anyone else.
Many blessings,
Authentic Believer
January 23, 2011 at 12:38 pm
ouch….yeah, umm unfortunately you gotta accept the fact that if that happened to any religious group they wont be happy. are your family members happy with him? well…im sorryto hear that, but most muslim families would prefer their sons getting married to muslim girls for the sake of children and the children’s upbringing. you have to understand this; they cannot force you to convert, or to get a divorce. you may stay the same religion you, just as long as you accept the fact that your children must be brought up by their father’s religion.
interact with them more, show them you are nice, and OPEN-MINDED….most muslim families dislike the fact that you are non-muslim because most non-muslims are very stubborn. be open with them, and you never know, they might like you after all. and if u ever think about converting to Islam, do it for Allah, not your husband or his family.
HMS
January 23, 2011 at 1:21 pm
You say you don’t want convert because of him. Do you want to convert for your own self?
Avenny
January 23, 2011 at 2:02 pm
It’s a hard situation, but there isn’t much you can do about it other than doing your best to be good to his family, without hurting yourself.
He’s right about converting. Whether you decide to convert or not is completely up to you and your beliefs. It should not have to do anything with him or his family.
Many families, all over the world, do not really accept their children to get married to someone from another religion. So your husband’s family is no exception. You cannot change the fact that they are looking at you as someone who is “different” from them. And people usually fear what’s different or unknown to them, and end up wrapping themselves in their own bubble, away from those others who are different.
So you should be yourself, prove yourself as respectful and worthy of respect, and be nice and good to them – without overdoing it or trying to get to close to them. So be there for them, in their happy and sorrow moments… visit them, keep in touch with them, and yet, remain “formal” at the same time because you don’t want to end up being hurt.
Most important, don’t expect anything from them. If good comes from them, then you’ll be happy. But if you’re expecting them to be good to you and they don’t treat you like their own daughter, then you’ll be hurt.
With time, they may come over the fact that you are different and start treating you like a daughter once they find out that you are a respectable human, and that you are just human like all of them. If this does not happen eventually, just live your life with your husband whom you love and be happy with him. Don’t let this get in the way of your happiness because as I said in the beginning, it has nothing to do with you, and it’s not in your hands.
dr. ch@rlie
January 23, 2011 at 2:54 pm
kitty it’s just nature of muslim families…they don’t accept non-muslim son-in-law or daughter-in-law..
your husband is great just like me..
it’s good to see you are taking interest in islam..
it is better to know and judge each aspect of islam before converting to it and never do it just for your husband or for your husband’s family because in this way you will ruin your religion..islam wants full dedication not conditional dedication..
take care of your husband..Allah hafiz…
A A SA
January 23, 2011 at 3:48 pm
Be as kind to them as possible, God willing one day they will turn around. If you love the Islamic culture… then why do you not look a little further into Islam it’s self. My husband was also Muslim and I was Christian at the time when we married. I started studying Islam to better understand him and his culture. After about 2 years I reverted. I’m not saying that is what you should do to get them to like you, but I’m saying that from someone that also fell in love with the culture first. I hope things get better between you and your in-laws it can be very difficult.
Butterfly (Springtime Song)
January 23, 2011 at 4:36 pm
Your husband needs to speak to his family and let them know that he has chosen you for his life’s partner and that he expects them to treat you right. I’m also a Christian married to a Muslim. When he told his mother about me she was not thrilled to say the least. She didn’t like the fact that I was not Muslim, was older than him and had been divorced. He talked to her a lot about it and she kept trying to change his mind. He finally told her that Muhammed married a woman older than him, a divorced woman and a Christian woman and that he loved me with all his heart and that I was the woman he had waited all his life to find. She finally accepted it. They didn’t tell his father until the week before I was to arrive in his country to get married. His father wasn’t too thrilled either. Fortunately all it took was about 5 minutes with me for them to see my personality and fall in love with me. That was 6 months ago. I was lucky to be able to spend 3 months on and off with them and now they completely adore me. His parents have even berated him for making me cry a few times, not because of anything he did to me, but because of the way he and his brother argue. Perhaps your husband could remind his family of the fact that Muhammed married a Christian woman and to remind them that in Islam there is no compulsion regarding religion. They need to get to know you and learn to like you for who you are and not dislike you because of your religion.
Sweet S
January 23, 2011 at 4:44 pm
just continue being kind to them themn one day they will be kind to you